My wife sent me this quote a couple of years back and it literally changed my life and the way I operate. When I opened the email and all I saw was these words, it was like a punch to the guts. There was nothing else written, just these words.
When I read the words and it sunk in why she had sent it to me, I realised that she was telling me in her own way to ‘Step up’, or ‘step away’. She was calling on me to be what she knew I could be, and not be just a ‘gunna’.
I have always been a dreamer. I have always openly expressed my ideas, my plans, the things I want to do in my life. I have always felt that there was more out there in the big wide world for me. I have written plans for the future, plans for businesses, plans for my dreams… but what good is a plan if it is not enforced? What good is an idea if it is not acted upon?
That quote has stuck in my head ever since I read it. The reason that it hit me with such force is because I realised that I was doing exactly what I used to scorn people for. I mean, sure I had done things up to that point which had moved me forward, and some of my dreams and goals had been realised… but these were considerably disproportionate to the amount that I had spoken about and ‘planned on doing’ sometime in the future.
All of my planning and dreaming had served a purpose. It allowed me to think that I was on my way to bigger and better things. It allowed me to escape the thought that I would be doing things I didn’t really enjoy for the rest of my life, or that I didn’t have control over my life. But… it wasn’t moving me forward. It wasn’t allowing me to actually ‘live’ the things I wanted in my life. This led to a lot of internal conflict and frustration within me. My wife could see that, and she could see the simple remedy. Take action. Stop talking about it, and just f@#$ do it!
I realised that I had been a ‘gunna’ and that nothing was going to change unless I changed it. I took a weekend away by myself, and asked myself a lot of hard questions.. why was I doing this? Why wasn’t I taking action? It all came down to the fact that I was scared to fail. Talking about it was easy. Doing it is more challenging. I was going to have to push my comfort zones if I was going to get where I wanted to go.
So, I made a decision. From that point on I wasn’t just going to talk about it. I was going to do it. The creation of GoalWorks is one of those decisions… there are a number of others and although it can be challenging, I am on a very rewarding journey. I am not just sitting behind the starting line looking to the end anymore.
Are you a ‘Gunna’ or a ‘Doer’? If you are in any doubt, ask a loved one to give you an open answer to that question… it might set you on a different path.
Have a fantastic weekend all! I am certainly going to!
PS, do I still come up with plans and dreams for the things I want to do? Of course!... its in my make up. I just don’t tell my wife about them until I am sure I am going to do them ;)