Just wanted to touch base with you on a little insight I have had with myself over the past couple of days. I was feeling a bit of frustration with where I am at in a couple of areas and was making some excuses as to why I didn’t get some things done that I had promised myself that I would do. Upon some reflection (and a gentle nudge from my coach), I realised that I had dropped ‘well below the line’. I am referring to the OAR-BED chart that I had touched on in our previous meetings. If you don’t remember what the OAR-BED Chart is and example is shown here;
Ownership - Take ownership of your life, and of your goals and dreams.
Accountability – Hold people to account. Help them be responsible and take ownership of their lives and dreams.
Responsibility – Take responsibility for your actions and your life.. be accountable to others.
Blame – Don’t blame others for your failure to act on things that are within your control.
Excuse – Don’t make excuses for not taking action. It is up to you to make things work.
Denial – don’t live in denial about the reasons that things are not working out. Be aware of your actions.
When I realised I had dropped below the line, it became clear that I could have quite easily completed the tasks that I had set for myself. The reason that I didn’t complete them had nothing to do with the fact that I had too much to do over the weekend (the story I told myself) – the fact is that I probably didn’t need to have beers on Friday AND Saturday night (or the associated dull thumping headache on the following morning), and had I have planned a little better I would have easily completed the tasks.
When I realised I had dropped below the line, I didn’t beat myself up. A quiet word in my own ear was all it took.. I told myself to stop telling myself stories of why I couldn’t achieve what I wanted to do, and accept the fact that there was a multitude of ways that I could have. It is the stories you tell yourself that determine how well we do. If we live below the line, you will come up with a thousand different reasons for why you will fail, and they will all more than likely be because you have surrendered control of your life to others. When you take control by living above the line, you can do whatever you want.
Accept that you will fall below the line. It is in our nature to do so. But don’t live there. Acknowledge it when you do, have a word to yourself, and move on to getting back above the line.
How have you been going?? Thinking back, have you been below the line this past week? Drop a line in the feedback section below and let us know how you are getting on.
Have an awesome week guys.